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CONTENTS

1  CONTENTS

2  WHAT IS FEMINISM AND WHY AM I THAT NOW?

3  HOW TO FEMINIST A Feminist Invocation of Beyoncé How to Femsplain Feminism to Your Friends IS IT FEMINIST? (A CHART) The Many Waves of Feminism Celebs on Being Feminist BOO! THE PATRIARCHY IS A SPOOKY GHOST Hazard: The Patriarch-D How to Be Feminist Without Being Too “Opiniony” BAD FEMINISTS (A LIST) Intersectionality in Feminism: For White Women! The Nine Circles of Hell for Women Who Don’t Help Other Women WARNING: CURVES AHEAD

4  FEMINISM: GET THE LOOK! A Feminist Invocation of “Real” Women The Look of a Feminist Is Feeling Beautiful from Within FEMINIST SKIN CARE Feeling Beautiful Is the New Looking Beautiful Feminist Cosmetic Tools HOW TO LOVE YOUR BODY EVEN THOUGH HERS IS BETTER Just the Right Amount of Sexiness! Which Nonfeminist Clothes Are in Your Closet Right Now? MENSES: THE ORIGINAL FEMINIST ACCESSORY Designer Handbags to Hold All Your Feminism Perfecting the No-Self Selfie EMBRACING DIFFERENCES: TEACHING MODELS WHAT IT WOULD BE LIKE TO BE FAT Our Inspiration: Diverse Women in Media DIY: Aging! HOW TO TAKE UP MORE SPACE, BUT NOT TOO MUCH SPACE

5  WOMEN AT WORK! A Feminist Invocation of Leaning In Work It! PROTECTING YOUR BODY OF WORK Supporting Other Working Women The Consequences of Not Having It All HOW TO APOLOGIZE FOR HAVING IT ALL Feature: Linda Marie Maarter, the Woman Who Literally Has It All Work–Life Balance vs. Life–Work Balance: Which Is Right for You? REPRODUCING AT EXACTLY THE RIGHT TIME Her-ssentials for a Home Office Feature: Megyn Kelly: Republicans Can Reclaim Feminism Too! SUCCESSFUL BUSINESSWOMEN: OUR ROLE MODELS Feature: Janet Hughes, the Woman Who Doesn’t Aspire So That Others Can! Foot Stomps and Other Percussive Methods That Let ’Em Know Who’s Boss EMPOWERMENT EXERCISE: EMBODY A MAN Combating Workplace Misogyny with Body Cams How to Do More with 23 Cents Less FEATURE: A NOTE FROM RUTH BADER GINSBURG AFTER SHE’S HAD HER WINE

6  HOW TO LOVE AND SEX A Feminist Invocation of Lena Dunham Is Dating a Man Feminist? HOW TO PUT DOWN THAT PICKUP ARTIST: MEET MISS NO, THE PROFESSIONAL PUT-DOWN ARTIST Feminist First Dates How to Stick with the Dating Apps You Hate HOW TO GET CATCALLED FOR YOUR PERSONALITY Is Your Guy Feminist? Rebranding Your Relationship Issues as Feminist Issues FEMINIST THINGS THAT WILL GET HIM OFF How to Be Sex Positive Even When You’re Bloated Meet Roy, the Hunky Male Feminist NOW, ABOUT YOUR LESBIAN PHASE . . . Planning a Feminist Wedding

7  HOW TO SAVOR BEING A SAVIOR A Feminist Invocation of Oprah Saving the World, Saving Ourselves PROBLEMATIC PRODUCTS Trading in Original Sin for Karma! Charity Mad Libs INSPIRING MEMES TO SHARE WITH YOUR FRIENDS! Essential Oil Blends to Bring Out Your Feminist Essence Things You Can Protest by Taking Your Top Off PRACTICING SELF-LOVE ON OTHER PEOPLE The Top Ten Ways to Know If You Really Love Yourself Overcome Your Wominsecurities with Crystals! FEATURE: LYLA STEINGARD-HOPE ON HER SERIES OF AHA! MOMENTS Life-Changing Books That Will Change Your Life Were You Feminist in a Past Life? FIND YOUR SPIRIT FEMINIST! A Note on Women’s Intuition

8  EPILOGUE Here’s What You’ve Learned Sign the Contract BLOOPER REEL!

9  ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

10  INDEX

11  CREDITS

12  COPYRIGHT

13  ABOUT THE PUBLISHER

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WHAT IS FEMINISM AND WHY AM I THAT NOW?

A lot of people think that feminism just appeared out of nowhere, but it actually took a lot of strong women (and men!)^* to get us to the point of complete and total gender equality. But this year, we finally did it! We won feminism. And although we have to thank the brave souls who paved the way for us, we mostly want to thank ourselves—Reductress, your favorite women’s magazine—for doing it better than everybody else. Now that we, the media, have broken down barriers and made feminism safe for the masses, it’s time for you to get on board, girl!

So how did we win feminism? By championing the greatest feminist works of our generation—empowering pop songs, feminist music videos, inspiring advertising, and shows with the word “girls” in the title. Every move we’ve made—every tearful show recap, every tearful concert viewing, every tearful Instagram scroll—has been decidedly pro-women!

Don’t believe that we won? The evidence is clear. You can see it in every living, breathing woman around you. You can see it in her shining hair, her flawless skin, and her belief in herself and her appearance. She knows that the female body is not something to be ashamed of; it’s something to be fiercely honored—and moisturized daily.

But now that we’ve caused feminism to have its moment, we’d like to take the time to tell you how to be feminist in book form! Why? Because you’ve already met the criteria for being a better feminist than everyone else: you’re a woman,^* you can read,^** and you buy things. The rest of feminism is a piece of cake.

Still confused about feminism? It’s actually very simple. The first rule of feminism is to Get it, girl, but first we must get to know the ladies who paved the way and got it before you.

You probably didn’t know this, but feminists have been around since before “feminism” was even a twinkle in Rosie’s rivets. Women had “Girl Power” before the Spice Girls ever gave it a name. Learning about these brave women^*** can inspire us to keep on fighting for what they never had. Think about it. Our great-grandmas couldn’t even vote or wear pants. Could you imagine living in a world where you couldn’t vote or wear pants? You couldn’t even vote to wear pants—because you couldn’t vote. That’s just how bad it was, pants-wise, before feminism.

And Grandma? You wouldn’t believe some of the stuff she wasn’t able to do. She probably can’t do much now either. Anyway, while Grampa was out getting day-drunk and smoking the cigars he stole off dead Germans, Grandma was staying at home raising your mom, who was a baby, and having lots of other babies as well. You think 77 cents on the dollar is bad? Try getting paid in babies!

See how much progress we’ve made already? Okay, history lesson almost complete.

So your mom—sorry, we know you guys aren’t talking right now and don’t want to make it weird, but hear us out. Mom was probably working while you were growing up, looking for a crack in that glass ceiling, so you could break it with your sweet new position as a social-media marketing manager! Without Mom (sorry, this is the last mention, we promise; we know she was never around for you emotionally and you deserve to tell her how you feel), and without her brave and creative use of shoulder pads, you wouldn’t be where you are now. So thanks, Mom! (Sorry!!!!!)

Today, plenty of women are walking around being feminist left and right like it’s no big deal, and they don’t even know it.^**** Our duty is to vlog, pin, and tweet about feminism as much as we can until every woman—male or female—is touched by the angel of feminism.

In order for you to understand the feminism of today, let’s take a step back and look at a brief history of feminism from the beginning.

OFFICIAL TIMELINE OF FEMINISM

So there you have it. We’ve come a long way, but we have so much more to do before the metaphorical V is truly equal to the metaphorical D. ’Cause let’s face it: the literal V is absolutely nothing like the literal D! Here’s why.

DICK VS. VAGINA

Even though we’re no longer smoking two packs a day and sneaking Schnapps to survive a lifetime of housewifery, we still have so much more to do to improve the world for women. From day to night to the morning-after pill, feminism is a work in progress, and you have the power to shape it—with the help of us, a women’s magazine that is now also a book!^*

With the right tools and a dependable moisturizing routine, you too can be a beautiful, strong feminist. Heck, you probably are right now and don’t even know it! But you better read this book just to make sure, because there are a lot of things you are probably doing wrong. It’s okay, girlfriend! Nobody’s perfect.^**

We’re so glad you’ve decided to join us on this feminist journey through the femwilderness as we reach toward the white light of femquality. Do bring sunscreen. Do bring a bottle of water and a high-protein snack. But please do not bring Jen. We don’t have time to listen to her shit right now. Now let us embark upon our odyssey through womanity!

You may have heard some ladies refer to feminisms, as in, “There is more than one type of feminism.” And they’re right! Feminism is multifaceted, with women of many different backgrounds and privileges working together for equality. Although there are several types of feminists, most feminists fall into one of two camps: Beyoncé and Taylor Swift. Your journey begins with one core decision, a decision you cannot undo once it is made; once you decide to be feminist, you need to know which of these two feminists you’re going to be. To help you decide, here are some definitions we pulled straight from a book (it’s our book; we wrote it).

TAYLOR VS. BEYONCÉ

Which kind of feminist are you? Write it in the comments! Oh, there’s no comments section in this book? Well, we’re still learning how this whole book thing works. Okay, just write it down on a piece of paper, attach it to a dove, and say your wish three times as you release the dove into the world. That way, you will for sure become a feminist! Good luck!

Plinky the Fairy Witch

Luck you’ll need, yes, luck times three.

You’ll need pluck and you’ll need me!

I’m Plinky the Fairy Witch, enchanté!

I guide new feminists on their way!

So follow me, child, and hear my spell.

I’ll guide you through book club, and potlucks, and hell.

For stresses will stress, and pressure will presh,

When you’re a “FEMINIST” with a capital F!

Tee hee! Too hoo!

Follow me, little you!

I once robbed a bank in Kalamazoo!

DISCLAIMER

Plinky is a second-wave feminist fairy who was trapped in a tampon dispenser at Lilith Fair for twenty years. We think she’s making that bank-robbery thing up, because she doesn’t seem like the type. There is a chance that she’s a dangerous radical, but for our purposes please try to ignore that. She has a lot of great things to say aside from the crime stuff, which, again, is probably not true. Just FYI!

HOW TO FEMINIST

A FEMINIST INVOCATION OF

Beyoncé

Repeat the following out loud, whenever you’re in need of wombspiration, whether you’re getting catcalled on the street or about to undertake a spiritually exhausting day of shopping.

We are the hands of the Goddess, Beyoncé,

And to her we offer to put our hands up.

We are the booties of the Goddess,

And to her we offer up cake by the pound.

We are the moufs of the Goddess, Bae,

And to her we offer cigars on ice.

The patriarchy:

How the hell did this shit happen?

Oh, babeh.

Let us find strength

In this kitchen half-naked.

In her name we make the world ready

For this jelly.

HOW TO FEMSPLAIN FEMINISM TO YOUR FRIENDS

Feminism is all about us women having each other’s backs, but it’s also about setting an example for those who may not be as enlightened as yourself. After all, you’re not really a feminist unless you’re sharing a slice of feminism with all your gal pals and raising them up to your level.^* Since a rising tide lifts all boats, it’s up to you to gath-her your friends together for gal-therings from time to time, braid their hair into cute feminist plaits, and empower them with the feminist discussions and tools they need in order to know that you already know more than they do. That’s what feminism is all about!

You may have heard the term “mansplaining,” which is when men explain things you already know in a condescending way. Now, when we need to explain important feminist concepts like brow shaping to women (who should probably already know them by now), we “femsplain.” Femsplaining allows us to empower ourselves and other women at the same time, while throwing just a teensy bit of shade their way for being so basic. It’s a very important part of the work we do!

When you femsplain feminism to your friends, make sure you don’t femsplain what’s wrong with other women;^** rather, femsplain what’s right about you.^*** If other women come across as lesser feminists as a result, then so be it. It’s in your power to feminspire women to be good feminists—almost, but never quite as good as you. Here’s how.

Feminvite them over.

A good invite is fun and playful while also conveying the importance of the gal-thering. Use some empowering phrases to get friends excited for the event, like, “We have got to get our gal on!” Give the night a fun and funky title like “Lisa’s Lady Bash” or “Wear Your Stretchy Jeans!” And always, always mention there will be booze. Drinking propels feminist discussion, so pick up your fave bottle of alc-her-hol and get ready to partake in the discourse.

Put on some fempowering music and talk about your bodies.

When your friends arrive, start slow by playing some early Beyoncé and then pass out some homemade probiotic yogurt. This will help get them comfortable and set the mood before you dish out that feminist knowledge. Before they know it, you’ll be telling them how “real” their bodies are and how beautiful their curves look. In the 1960s, this type of group discussion was called “consciousness raising,” but for our modern-day purposes we’d rather call it “woking up like this” because it just sounds better.

Anyway, have your friends sit in a circle and repeat the phrase “I woke up like this” until they start to believe it. Once they start nodding, smiling, and taking their first shaky yet empowered selfies, you’ll know they’re ready to absorb the lessons that they were not permitting themselves to take in before you came into their life and allowed them to be who they already are.

Literally bake a feminist cake and dish it out to your femfriends.

Baking is fun and a great way to show friends you feel strongly about something (think birthdays, bake-sale fund-raisers). A chocolate cake says, “This cake is for women. Women love chocolate. I feel strongly about that.”

If your friends are watching their waistlines and refuse your feminist cake, go ahead and put on your “Fempowerment” playlist. Right as that old Meghan Trainor song comes on, tell them how much “real women” eat cake these days and then reoffer the cake. Do not let them leave without eating some cake. This is an important step.

Before you know it they’ll be, like, “How do I get this recipe? This dish is so good!” This will allow you to discuss the ins and outs of modern feminism and explain, “Actually, this cake was baked by a man. The man.” That’s where this book comes in. Pass around copies of the book as feminist party favors and get that party started.

Distribute this femiglossary.

When you’re part of a movement, particularly a movement that involves women, it’s important to have a shared language to discuss your collective experiences and goals as well as common cultural reference points to empower each other with and shout supportively at each other during hard workouts. Whether you’re complaining about an uncomfortable bra or petitioning Sony Pictures for more movies with erotic male dancers, expand your her-cabulary and teach your friends about feminism by sprinkling your language with the following terms.

FEMIGLOSSARY

ADVISE-HER: Your role as a feminist, should you choose to take it. From now on, you’ll be advising your female friends at every turn. Think of yourself as a life coach and image consultant combined!

ALC-HER-HOL: The most important ingredient for any feminist gal-thering. Example: “Did you bring the alc-her-hol?” “What?”

BEYONCÉ: The first feminist.

BEYSCIPLE: A young feminist in training. She can only wake up like this from a nap.

People will listen to almost anything if you can do a solid braid!

CONSCIOUSNESS BRAIDING: Braiding a fellow feminist’s hair and raising her up through a sleek and fashionable coif. Such a hairstyle should make her feel sexy, but also allow her to operate machinery or perform surgery, just like a man would.

FEMHIVE: The army of feminists on the Internet, with an arsenal of hashtags at their disposal. Example: “Some troll is body-shaming Dana’s DIY anal bleaching vlog! #Release the #femhive! #Yesallfemhives.”

FEMINISMGASM: A feminist orgasm; can be physical or political. Example: “Paul went down on me while we watched a YouTube video of a Michelle Obama commencement speech, which gave me my strongest feminismgasm ever!”

FEMINISTIFY: To be a feminist while also being sexy and beguiling.

GAL-FIRMATION: An affirmation you give yourself when you look in the mirror in the morning that helps you tackle your day as a woman. Examples: “At the end of this day is a bottle of wine.” “We can do this, uterus.” “The longest journey begins with a single step—in heels.”

GENDER STUPIDITY: The completely boneheaded ideas some people have about gender. Examples: “Men are better than women.” “Quilting your feelings is women’s work.”

HERFBORT: Your vibrator and number-one D alternative when your man’s not supporting your feminist goals. Example: “I’m so effing horny, but David’s seeing that Skrillex cover band with his friends tonight, so I’m gonna have to hop on my herfbort.”

HERSHTAG: A hashtag strong enough for a man, but made for women. Example: “I’m live-tweeting my natural water birth at 3 P.M. EST! Follow the hershtag #sarahsnaturalwaterbirth for updates. Fingers crossed!!”

INTHERNALIZED SEXISM: Internalizing the myths and stereotypes of femininity, processing them, and reclaiming them as our own. Example: “Yes, I’m a housewife, but I prefer the term ‘stay-at-home bitch,’ thank you very much.”

MAID-DEN: Like a man cave, but for women. Instead of video games, you can knit, do crosswords, or just gab here. Feel free to decorate it the same way you decorate the rest of your house because that’s your job! Fun!

MALE GAYZE: That judgy yet supportive look you get from your gay best friend, who would never objectify you, but will definitely tell you how your boobs look in that V-neck romper.

MASSAGE-ONY: The completely inadequate massages some men offer in return for our ameeezing massages. Equal pay for equal play!

NOT-GUILTY PLEASHERS: Pleasures that only women like (chocolate!), which the patriarchy has made us feel guilty about for that reason. But no longer will we tolerate this guilt inducement! Sorry not sorry! <— Also a good hershtag; see above.

PATRIARCH-D: That big ol’ sweet, sweet D that keeps you enslaved to the patriarchy.

PRIVILEGE: Not super sure, but your friend Jen keeps asking you to “check” it. Sorry, Jen, we mostly use Venmo!

SHOPAHOL-ETTE: Not an addict (see also: not-guilty pleashers). Example: “I’m a shopahol-ette. I just bought eleven copies of the Reductress book for my friends, and I do not feel guilty about that.”

SQUAD GOALS: Achievements that you and your girls must accomplish together or you will all have failed. Example: Attaining the exact same body type so you can all share outfits!!!

#WCIWCW (WOMEN CRUSHING IT ON WOMAN-CRUSH WEDNESDAY): Like a normal woman-crush Wednesday, but when your woman crush is really crushing it in her chosen field and/or brow game. Don’t worry, this woman crush is totally platonic, and you don’t have to be a lesbian to do it or to crush it. But as a feminist you totally can be a lesbian if you’re into that! Swoon! Example: “I’m really proud of all the #WCIWCW who bought the Reductress book.”

WOMBVERSATION: Talking with another woman in hushed tones while placing your hands on each other’s bellies and speaking your truth.

Gal-therings are a great time to drink alc-her-hol, light wo-tive candles, and have deep wombversations.

WO-TIVE CANDLE: A candle that helps you get in touch with your inner goddess, ideally lit during a full moon or at the time of ovulation.